Perfectionism in High Achievers: The Real Cost

“I’m a perfectionist” is the standard answer to the question about your biggest weakness, chosen because it does not sound like one. It sounds like discipline.

There is a straightforward way to test whether that reading holds. Ask what perfectionism does to performance.

The Answer, Which Is Unflattering to the Interview Line

Harari, Swider, Steed and Breidenthal pooled the workplace research in a 2018 meta-analysis for the Journal of Applied Psychology, working with two dimensions: excellence-seeking perfectionism and failure-avoiding perfectionism.

Their finding on performance was that “neither excellence-seeking nor failure-avoiding perfectionism were significantly associated with job performance”. Perfectionism related positively to motivation and engagement, and that, in their phrasing, “did not translate into improved performance”. Their conclusion: “perfectionism is likely not constructive at work.”

An earlier version of this article asserted that perfectionists do not actually perform better and offered nothing in support. The claim was right and the sourcing was absent, which is worth saying plainly because an unsupported true statement is still unsupported.

One caveat belongs with it. No reliable association in a meta-analysis is not proof that perfectionism never helps anyone. It does mean the interview answer has nothing behind it.

Two Versions, Two Different Bills

The same meta-analysis separates the costs, and the separation is the useful part.

Excellence-seeking was “strongly associated with higher levels of engagement, motivation, and conscientiousness”, and moderately associated with higher stress, anxiety and workaholism. A genuinely useful disposition at a moderate premium.

Failure-avoiding was “strongly associated with indicators of poor well-being, such as higher levels of burnout, stress, anxiety, and depression”, together with lower conscientiousness and lower engagement. The premium without the disposition.

This is the evidenced version of the distinction that usually gets drawn between high standards and perfectionism. The two are almost indistinguishable from outside, because both produce someone who checks things twice. What differs is whether the person is reaching for something or away from something.

Shame and Guilt Are Not the Same Mechanism

The distinction that makes failure-avoidance expensive has a long history in the literature. Helen B. Lewis put it in 1971: “The experience of shame is directly about the self, which is the focus of evaluation. In guilt, the self is not the central object of negative evaluation, but rather the thing done is the focus.”

Herman later described shame as “an acutely self-conscious state in which the self is ‘split,’ imagining the self in the eyes of the other”, where in guilt “the self is unified”.

The two also track differently against outcomes. A meta-analytic review by Kim, Thibodeau and Jorgensen in 2011 found “stronger associations with shame and depression than with guilt and depression”.

Worth naming the limit on this, because it is a Western dichotomy. The literature notes substantial cultural variation, particularly in collectivist settings where shame operates relationally rather than as individual failure. The distinction is useful and it is not universal.

The Part That Is Interpretation

What follows is a reading rather than a finding, and an earlier version presented it as research by attributing it to unnamed researchers working at the intersection of shame and high performance. There are no such unnamed researchers in this article’s sources.

On this reading, failure-avoiding perfectionism is protection. Work that cannot be criticised leaves no opening through which the person can be judged. That would explain the specific futility of raising the standard: if the standard is set by the avoidance of exposure rather than by the task, it has no reachable value.

And it would explain why the pattern entrenches. Avoidance is reinforced by working in the short term while leaving the underlying fear untouched, which is how avoidance generally behaves.

Where It Shows Up in the Running of Things

These are observations rather than measured findings. An earlier version called the effect on creative work “one of the most well-documented costs of perfectionism”, which it is not, at least not in anything consulted here.

Nothing unfinished circulates. Drafts, prototypes and half-formed ideas are the intermediate states that creative work runs on, and they are the states this disposition is least able to tolerate. The result is polishing where iterating would be faster.
Delegation stops functioning. If nothing arrives at the required standard, the work returns to you, and you become the constraint on your own organisation.
Standards applied outward. Hewitt and Flett’s second dimension, other-oriented perfectionism, is the demand that others be flawless. Applied to a team, it produces people who stop bringing problems early, because an unfinished problem is an exposed one.
Closeness gets harder. Being known requires being seen in confusion and failure. Someone who cannot tolerate their own imperfection has limited room to be seen in it.

Whose Standard Is It

Hewitt and Flett conceptualised perfectionism in 1991 as multidimensional, separating self-oriented from other-oriented and from socially prescribed perfectionism, the last being the belief that others demand flawlessness of you. Later research has linked that third form to psychological distress such as depression; the 1991 paper did the conceptual work of separating the dimensions.

The third one is the hardest to argue with from the inside, because the standard appears to come from the board, the market or the people who promoted you, and therefore seems not to be yours to revise. Which is why it is worth establishing whether anyone has actually stated it.

Clance and Imes described an adjacent pattern in 1978 after clinical work with 150 highly successful women who explained achievements away while retaining criticism as evidence of deficiency. They were describing a pattern rather than measuring how common it is, and later work using structured questionnaires found men reporting it with comparable frequency.

The Answer Is Not Lower Standards

High achievers resist any framing that asks them to care less, and they are right to. The meta-analysis does not say that caring about quality is a mistake. It says that excellence-seeking and failure-avoidance cost very different amounts, and that neither buys the performance the interview answer claims.

The practical difference shows up at the point of failure. One response asks what went wrong and what can be changed. The other treats the failure as information about the person. The first can be met, exceeded and revised. The second is calibrated to the avoidance of a feeling, and feelings do not have target values.

So the question to put to a piece of work stays narrow. What standard does this actually require, and what is being added past that point?

And if the pattern has moved past a question about standards into something affecting how you function, that belongs with a licensed professional. Nothing here substitutes for one, including the assessment below.

One Question Worth Sitting With

When you finish something good, is the feeling satisfaction or relief?

Satisfaction is what a met standard produces. Relief is what a dodged exposure produces, and relief has a short half-life, because the next piece of work arrives and the exposure is available again.

What the Standard Is Protecting

A standard that cannot be relaxed is usually holding something up. The Executive Identity Profile is a confidential assessment of where your sense of worth currently rests across five dimensions, and which of them is carrying more than it should. It takes about ten minutes, and it opens a conversation rather than closing one. Begin your profile here.

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References

Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Steed, L. B., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. Journal of Applied Psychology, 103(10). https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324
Lewis, H. B. (1971), on the distinction between shame and guilt.
Kim, S., Thibodeau, R., & Jorgensen, R. S. (2011), meta-analytic review of shame, guilt and depression. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0021466
Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 60(3), 456–470. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456
Clance, P. R., & Imes, S. A. (1978). The imposter phenomenon in high achieving women: Dynamics and therapeutic intervention. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research & Practice, 15(3), 241–247. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0086006

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